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Merry Drear's Full Spectrum
Apr 3^rd, 2009 at 6:15am

Hair - Wash and condition day. Less shampoo and conditioner daily, weekly VR and twice weekly deep conditioning seems to give the best results for the softest and shiniest results. I still need product overload for ponytails and buns so any upstyle is very infrequent because mousse, hairspray, etc. irritates my scalp. I've ordered small scarves to tie around ponytails and buns to make buns look fuller and because in some contexts it may look more attractive than a plain jersey/knit elastic tie.

Health - Scared the whole family with my recent health scares. Didn't tell my in-laws because they're hypochondriacs (sp?) and I don't want to be the one to blame if my MIL's worries killed her. Had blood tests done at gp. She filled five of those glass tubes. Sent them to a laboratory at a local hospital and a week later nearly all 26 things they tested for were clear. I only lack D-vitamin. Not atypical for none-native Danes in Denmark. This might explain why I've been so fatigued I've hit the table several times on weekends when I've rested on the couch and tried to get up.

Smear test was clear too; no cervical cancer either but I still want bleedings outside of periods checked. Typical; as soon as I got a gyno appt. booked, the bleedings stopped and I haven't had them since. Roll Eyes

I've also been hit by one infection after another. That could explain why my lymph nodes were all swollen. I really thougth it was some form of lymph cancer. Still have gyno appt. and now I also have a ear-throat-nose appt. because of a swollen tonsil that hurts like hell but I've become accostumed to the pain so I'm not really conscious of it. I hope they find nothing serious. I feel good for now.

Today is the last day of pencillin. When the gp/doc can't find anything wrong they take blood tests and put you on medication just because they can't think of anything else to do, I guess.

Other stuff- Been calling council regarding our oldest Autistic son who lost his respite care last October. I've been lost in their phone system and for a long time they didn't reply to my e-mails. Now I finally got an e-mail saying that we don't have the social worker we thought we have but we now have one we had before, before someone else replaced her replacement. Roll Eyes

Yesterday our "new" social worker wrote a short line saying she can meet us on either the 4th or 5th of May, she'll call us, and she's gone on Easter break. No comment on all the stuff I've carefully writtten, researched and asked about. I can guarantee her that we'll have a VERY LONG meeting!

Random thoughts - My aestetic tastes and future plans for interior design are so mixed that I thought it would be a good idea to make an image folder on our computer with images of things that fit my tastes so I could get a visual overview and see if there are any red threads I could use as a guideline. I've sort of noticed that my tastes span the spectrum of romantic gothic, Victorian steampunk, brightly colored 1940s-50s retro/kitsch, and timeless country. My husband only shares my classic country taste. I'm not confused. I just hate being restricted.

I find it easier to mix decades, styles and eras in my wardrobe and overall personal styling. I just don't know how to translate my approach to apparel style into interior home design. It doesn't help that our house is a modern, standard Type-house. Roll Eyes

Here in Denmark Type-house means lots of open space, little wasted space, plain white walls with a heshan patterned wallpaper that goes up to the ceiling which is shaped like a ^ and in light colored wood, same light stained doors, door frames, moulding, white plastic framed windows and exterior doors. Small bedrooms, small bathroom without tub/bricked up shower stall only, large livingroom/all purpose room. Mix of terracotta tiled floors and fake wood laminates.
Don't worry - All entries won't be this long.

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Trisha Stardust Offline Posts: 2318 Missouri Gender:	Re: Merry Drear's Full Spectrum Reply #1 - Apr 3^rd, 2009 at 9:42am Hi Drear! --Decided to start a journal, eh? Good to hear from you. hugs
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Re: Merry Drear's Full Spectrum
Reply #2 - Apr 6^th, 2009 at 7:35am

Hair - Wash and condition hair day. For the fun of it I tried to roll a pompadour at the front around a sock. It took forever but it looked fine until I got to the top and didn't know what to do with the sock or how to secure the pompadour. It's not as easy as they make it look in those tutorials. I hadn't curled or product overloaded my hair either. I suppose I have to sacrfice my sense one day and give the pompadour a try again. So now my hair's just hanging and doing nothing and that's fine with me.

Shopping - Saturday I finally got around to buying my dad's 9th of March birthday present. Embarrassed

We've been hit by every infection out there.

I'd gone into Tøj & Sko (simply Clothes & Shoes) because I was wearing these terribly tight fitting ballerinas that were pinching the sides of my wide feet so I just grabbed the cheapest DK kr.50,- white jogging shoes/trainers.

I had white socks, brown capri jeans that are just above ankles on me, white/rose/heather striped knit t-shirt with boat neck, ivory coat, hair in ponytail with antique lace trimmed scarf tied around it and a curl at the bottom, pearl studs and 50s/60s style plastic ivory/rose pink bead necklace. Full but "soft" pink retro make-up. Really simple and just sort of channeling a retro look.

Then as I sat on a chair and was putting on my new shoes a lady stopped right in front of me, bent down until she was eye level with me and said in a low but clear enough voice to be heard by others that: for all of your effort you're still not Danish and you'll never look white.

I just gave that sort of nod that doesn't mean this nor that. I didn't rush to finish lacing my shoes and I took my time gathering my bags and walked out of the shop "tall" with a smile on my face. I felt like a piece of litmus paper though and I don't know if anyone could tell how I really felt.

Easter Break - home with boys. Two oldest went out to play first, I let the youngest play computer games. Then I brought the oldest ones in to play and sent the youngest one out. That seems to work best when there's only one adult around. Our property isn't fenced in. It's on a dead end and off to the side so we don't get traffic up here but I still stay vigilant and never let my eyes off whom ever is out playing.

Tomorrow we've got the present to mail, and I've promised the boys we'll bake so that means buying a package of powder to stir in some water, mix well and place in oven. As much as I love cooking, I hate baking. Grin

I'm wracking my brains about what to do on Wednesday. It'll rain the next couple of days but it's cold today. Hub's off from Thursday.

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Re: Merry Drear's Full Spectrum
Reply #3 - Apr 6^th, 2009 at 8:53am

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Then as I sat on a chair and was putting on my new shoes a lady stopped right in front of me, bent down until she was eye level with me and said in a low but clear enough voice to be heard by others that: for all of your effort you're still not Danish and you'll never look white.

What the...?! Angry

How assinine and utterly pompous of that woman. --Notice I did not call her a "lady" because she is defnitely no lady. Argh, that makes me mad.

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Midnight Angel

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Re: Merry Drear's Full Spectrum
Reply #4 - Apr 6^th, 2009 at 4:26pm

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Then as I sat on a chair and was putting on my new shoes a lady stopped right in front of me, bent down until she was eye level with me and said in a low but clear enough voice to be heard by others that: for all of your effort you're still not Danish and you'll never look white.

Unbelievable. I mean thinking such things and keeping them to oneself is one thing. But having the audacity to get in someone's face about it is crossing the line!
Is that kind of prejudice typical of Denmark? I may have to reconsider traveling there one day. Angry

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Re: Merry Drear's Full Spectrum
Reply #5 - Apr 7^th, 2009 at 4:09am

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Then as I sat on a chair and was putting on my new shoes a lady stopped right in front of me, bent down until she was eye level with me and said in a low but clear enough voice to be heard by others that: for all of your effort you're still not Danish and you'll never look white.

Unbelievable. I mean thinking such things and keeping them to oneself is one thing. But having the audacity to get in someone's face about it is crossing the line!
Is that kind of prejudice typical of Denmark? I may have to reconsider traveling there one day. Angry

It's been 11 years since I had a similar experience in another part of the country so I'd like to believe it's uncommon. Others might have different experiences. In my younger years I was often faced with stupid questions or some very embarrassing situations. They still happen from time to time but they're usually not intentional on the other person's part. I can be as guilty as the next person of putting my foot in my mouth so usually I don't become upset when my "exotic" appearance leads to an embarrassing situation based on someone's assumptions about me.

In my younger years when I was larger and I only felt drawn towards romantic gothic and ethno gothic styles (which I still do but I also feel drawn to so many other styles and more colors) there was one lady at the kindergarten my boys have all attended who asked me on a daily basis how I could stand to wear all that black in the summer. I can't recall what I answered but it was just variations of the same answer. You'd think she'd eventually get the message. Roll Eyes

I recall my answer involved my hair color and how many people around the world in warm countries have the same hair color and live just fine with it.

I'm not into long answers anymore when people insist on being ignorant. I give them a thought pause and a short answer or let their comments stand for themselves.

The point of relating the second story was to illustrate the last sentence.

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Midnight Angel

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Reply #6 - Apr 7^th, 2009 at 4:45pm

Ah, I see. It's somewhat reassuring to know that this isn't a common practice among Danes. But were it me, I would've at least made it perfectly clear to the, um, *ahem* Lips Sealed

her that she was being extremely rude. I may have gone so far as to point out some obvious way in which she was trying to be something that she wasn't. Roll Eyes

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Reply #7 - Apr 8^th, 2009 at 4:31am

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Ah, I see. It's somewhat reassuring to know that this isn't a common practice among Danes. But were it me, I would've at least made it perfectly clear to the, um, *ahem* Lips Sealed

her that she was being extremely rude. I may have gone so far as to point out some obvious way in which she was trying to be something that she wasn't. Roll Eyes

The honest truth is that I don't posess great self control so the less I say and the less I do and preferrably saying nothing is usually the safest option for me.

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Isabelle Diamond Offline A womens hair is her life :) Posts: 643 Southern Ontario, Canada Gender:	Re: Merry Drear's Full Spectrum Reply #8 - Apr 8^th, 2009 at 11:31am ((hugs)) Holy nasty people! I would have told her to bugger off!
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Re: Merry Drear's Full Spectrum
Reply #9 - Apr 14^th, 2009 at 6:50am

Hair - It's reacting really positively to Gliss' yellow Oil Nutrive series. I haven't sprayed leave-in conditioner on all last week.

Clothes - I've ordered four skirts and two dresses all in 50s retro style. I really tried to introduce colors. I'm comfortable with more colors now but I always choose black if it's one of the options. The skirts are black, black/white plaid, turquoise blue, white/navy. I think the dresses are black and a blue one. I've got a white/black shirt, a white shirt, a purple shirt, and a purple/patterned shirt to go with the skirts. I guess I'll be using black and white t-shirts with the navy/white skirt or one of two twin sets in red and white I got from my MIL. I love home knits.

I ordered black canvas flats to go with the dresses and skirts but I still want new shoes that aren't designed for hiking alone. I'm trying to get away from hiking footwear. Grin

If I recall correctly I've also ordered some small scarves to tie around ponytails. I don't know how often I'll be wearing the seemed stockings I ordered last winter but haven't worn yet. I've got white ankle socks but that's so cliche´ so I'll probably be looking for knee highs or even ankle in bright colors. Failing that, black will do.

Early in the winter I ordered summer knits that were on sale in white, fuschia and coral. Those colors suit me really well so I might try to make them stables so that everything isn't some shade of grey or wine if it isn't black. Nothing wrong with grey, wine or black though. I'm also very attracted to "toxic" shades of green!

I'm happy to put away all the blacks, greys, and wines from winter. I've always preferred my winter wardrobe and putting it away used to feel sad. I threw a lot of clothes away from the past two summers. After losing weight and having to replace my entire wardrobe I've made many mistakes that looked good but just didn't feel like me. Most modern styles and anything that wasn't dark enough, white enough, deep or clear enough, went out! Much of what doesn't work with a late 40s- 50s retro style went out too. I prefer the 1920s-50s but I'm trying to narrow my day style down to little more than one decade. I like lots of historical styles but I need something that works daily because I'm not of a very sociable nature.

Make-up - I'm wearing less black, grey, wine, and brown eye make-up now and trying to find ways to use pink, purple, green, coral, and red. I'm not seeing any affordable deep blue shades. I've got an olive green liquid liner. I'm out of black, turquoise and pink liquid liner. I'm out of blue and black nailpolish and I need to use my red and pink nail polishes up before they end up being a waste of money. I can't find green nail polish but Tiger which is sort of a $1 shop might have it. I don't recall the quality of their nail polishes being that good. L'oreal and MF had some good deep blue nailpolishes a few years back...maybe that's many years now? Shocked

I want higher pigmented make-up so that it's more visible.

Gosh will definitely have both blue and green nail polish! I'm determined to get a good deep blue and a dark green lipstick. I just need to use a few of the lipsticks I already have up, to clear my conscience.

Easter Activities - Walked, played outdoors, baked, watched TV, the boys played computer games and then they played some more computer games for the first three days while we waited for hub to get off work.

We visited a chalk mine on Thursday. The boys bought bats in the souvenir shop. Some very kind German goths let my boys choose bats first.

The big boys chose standard, black, plastic bats but the youngest one fell in love with a small, stuffed, neon green bat with silver spots and red ears. Kiss

On Easter Sunday we ended up on a two hours killer hike. That wasn't the plan, we simply lost our way and couldn't find the car. The map wasn't to scale and some trails weren't even recognizable in shape. Roll Eyes

The boys didn't complain once! Cool

We got home in time for me to prepare the traditional Easter lamb.

Today - Am I the only one who's happy to get all the Easter decorations down? Anyway, I've got to get out. Doc. took a blood test and all the things I was tested for were fine except D-vitamin. So I need to get out.

Music - Dion Dimucci, Frankie Avalon, all the "Bobbies" - Darin, Rydell, and Vinton, Everly Brothers, The Awakening, Nox Arcana, Spleen United, Patti Page, Peggy Lee, Roy Orbison, and Gary Numan these days. I can't find my DCD box set. Cry

I haven't listened to DM for a few months now and I've not even missed them. Embarrassed

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Sakina Stardust Offline August 2O1O @ the Louvre Posts: 3399 Arizona Gender:	Re: Merry Drear's Full Spectrum Reply #10 - Apr 15^th, 2009 at 1:15am Have you heard about www.modemerr.com? ; I love their clothes! I have most trouble finding retro/rockabilly shoes. Do you have any sources to share??
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Drear

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Reply #11 - Apr 15^th, 2009 at 2:53am

Haven't heard of it. Thanks for posting it. I sent you a pm with more or less related links.

There are also some reproduction shop but I can't remember what they're called. I know they advice costumers on shapewear/foundation garments so perhaps they can advice on shoes too.

They sometimes have shoes and I forgot to include them in the links I sent you:

http://www.tangerineboutique.com/

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dj Ex Member	Re: Merry Drear's Full Spectrum Reply #12 - Apr 15^th, 2009 at 4:06am i like your taste in clothes
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Reply #13 - Apr 16^th, 2009 at 4:29am

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Then as I sat on a chair and was putting on my new shoes a lady stopped right in front of me, bent down until she was eye level with me and said in a low but clear enough voice to be heard by others that: for all of your effort you're still not Danish and you'll never look white.

Sorry this response is so late, as I've only just read this.

If that were me...although clearly not. I would've wanted to know what it was that gave her the audacity to even presume that you wanted to look white in the first place? Huh

I totally understand what you meant when you stated that Quote:

I don't posess great self control so the less I say and the less I do and preferrably saying nothing is usually the safest option for me.

because when I worked, people pretty much thought that I was a push over because I didn't always stand up for myself. However in all actuallity, I was protecting myself and my position at my job. I was always afraid that something could come out of my mouth in the throws of a heated situation that might get me in trouble. So, like you, I basically wouldn't say much...if anything at all.

However, she was totally rude and clearly had issues. I guess leaving it alone was the best option, but it would've really bugged me to no end to know what her deal was. And since it wasn't a work situation, I would've asked. Roll Eyes

But again, I feel that you did the best thing because in the end, her feellings are her problem, not yours. Wink

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Reply #14 - Apr 16^th, 2009 at 6:09am

La Diosa, one of the first things that entered my mind was exactly what made her pressume that in the first place then a bunch of explicitives went off in my head and I just knew that being beyond reproach was the best tactic. I'm also working on being like the lady I want to look like and I'm...excuse, I know this is going to sound cheesy...trying to be a good Christian.

Thanks dj.

Hair - It's just behaving fabulously! I'm not even sure I can encourage myself to try other products now. I've just been leaving it down. I don't feel motivated to put my hair up when it requires so many styling products to keep all hair up and out of my face. The windy weather is driving me nuts though. I'm a lipstick wearer but I hate it when my hair sticks to my lips. Yesterday was a deep condition day. Today was wash/condition and go. I towel dry and shake my head. Then brush when it's dry.

Health update - Went to see gynaechologist last evening 6:15pm. It was up on the third floor in an old grand apartment building. The interior was modernized with respect for the original architecture and it's clear that he cares about flashy design! I'm glad hub and the boys waited in the car. There were little glass tables, glass decorations, designer chairs and fine art every where. I liked the grey toned theme with accents in lime. There was also a fantastic sound system so I could listen to classical music and know that if someone else was waiting while I was in, then they wouldn't be able to hear the doc and I talking.

About the doctor - Past retirement perhaps. Difficult to tell because he's that very vain type of older man. Nothing wrong with that. Just pointing it out. He had a huge gold watch on and I had to control myself not to laugh at the thought of his watch getting lost "up there". Grin

I think he flattered himself thinking I was flirting with him. So while examining me with the mechanical "salad tosser", taking a new cell scrape in case they missed something a month ago, scanning me inside and cutting away a lymph or something he'd found and showing me how he could flip the new chair up, down, and around he suggested that we go and have ourselves a little chat afterwards. Grin

I wasn't laughing at the time. I tell you, it's an awkward state and position to be thrown around in. Shocked

Well, he did a good job at examining everything and explaining it all.

Afterwards in his HUGE designer office, I got to see all his fancy technology and he showed how he can just send the tests directly, digitally to the lab. Nothing new technology wise but the aestetics of the design had obviously been catered to beyond what you normally see in such a setting. Cyber-Edwardian interior design comes to mind.

He said nothing looked unusual though and in worst case he may have to cut away the bottom??? or if they don't find any cell changes, he'll just freeze and burn it away. He says it'll feel just like the examination but they'll take a little more away. I won't feel anything. I didn't feel him cutting anything out but I bled like hell all last evening and thought I was going to pass out in the supermarket when I went to look for post natal type pads because that's how much I was bleeding. He'll call in two weeks and he looks forward to seeing me again. Mhmm...there was just something surrealistic and comical about the experience.

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