Only once did someone say I should cut my hair or put it up in a bun.  I was working in an office in NYC and was the vice presidents assistant.  She wasn't nasty about it or anything, so I put it up in buns or rolls. Lately?  No one has said a thing which means no murders in my area for a while! LOL!!

The nerve of some people!  They're definitely jealous of you.  Maybe some genuinely think long hair is unflattering on short women but what would make them voice this opinion is beyond me.  Surely they have more important things to concern themselves with than your hair.  Btw.  I'm 4'10"ft , my hair isn't long anymore, hasn't even been waist length for over 20 years and I haven't settled on a final length and I don't know how long it can grow but no one's going to have an influence on what I decide to do with my hair! 

I'm "a little" late.  Actually, my story is the opposite.  Everyone says that since I have such gorgeous, shiny, straight, Asian hair, I MUST keep it long.  I know it's meant as a compliment but I hate being dicatated to and now that I've cut it off but am growing it back, I'm too proud to tell people that while I don't think my hair is as gorgeous and certainly not as low maintenance as they imagine, I know they're right about what looks best.  My official excuse for growing it out is that I can't afford the trims and I can't get the hang of blow drying and styling a bob, forget shorter hair = higher cost, higher maintenance for me. 

I don't know if there would be a length where people would tell me to cut it off.  My 72 y.o. MIL has gorgeous, long, curly, brown hair with hardly any greys in.  Yet everyone's been nagging her to cut it off for ten years now.  Then one of her daughters offered to trim the ends but she cut it off just below my MILs shoulders!   I thought that was so cruel but of course I've kept my mouth shut.  She's an older lady plus her hair's curly so it doesn't grow as fast as younger hair.  She's not said it directly but I know she's sad about the loss and it hasn't grown much since it was cut off last Fall.  Not enough to notice   She does such beautiful updos.  Well, she used to anyway.  She wasn't letting it hang down and drag down her features.  Not all of her styles were good for her hair but generally it's in good condition. 

Our queen (I'm Danish, dad's American, and I'm adopted from Thailand so I have Asian hair) has long grey hair.  She's an older lady too.   I don't buy into the whole hair-length-by-age-dictation thing.

I got told a lot to cut it when it was a little past my shoulders I got the Locks of Love speech way to many times to keep count.  Family and High School (was in at the time) where the worst and I finally caved however refused to give the hair to locks of love.

I've never been told to cut my hair, yet, and I wouldn't listen to anyone if they said it. I find it so pathetic that people feel it's their job to tell others what to do with their hair, maybe if they had lives they'd mind their own business, no one tells them to grow theirs long so why do they think it's their "mission" to get long haired individuals to cut their hair?  That just rubs me the wrong way. And the funny thing was I sorta had an experience of that nature already. Last fall, I was standing in a grocery store waiting for my mom, I had my hair down, and mind you it was only 24" at the time or BSL so not even very long in my opinion. And I heard a woman walk by and say to herself "why would anyone want so much hair?" Needless to say I shot her a filthy look as she went past thinking to myself some nasty retorts about her boyish looking short hair, but she wasn't worth my time so I did no more then that. But seriously why did it even concern her? She didn't know me from adam, and I could care less what she does with her hair, and yet she said it like I was too stupid to get my hair cut.... yeah well at least people aren't questioning my gender. 

It gets some women fired up because they view long hair on anyone over 25 as being ignorant of how it's a sign of submission to men's beauty ideals for women.  It may be to many men but there are also many men who genuinely aren't attracted to long hair on a woman or who genuinely don't pay attention one way or the other.  It also never occurs to these women that some of us are perfectly confident women who keep our hair long for ourselves. 

At the time I looked my most goth and was most active on goth forums there were many goths who for all in the world couldn't understand why I wouldn't cut off my naturally long, black hair and have crazy, dyed extentions put in instead.  I wasn't upset with them, just disappointed that they turned out to be pretty average people with average, narrow mindsets.  I admire them for going against the grain but they should extend the same tolerance towards others which I rarely experience that they truly do.

Ditto the same observation and experience with vintage 1930s-50s enthusiasts.  I take my hat of for their dedication to era correct styles and hair sacrifice for authentic styles but they completely deny that there have always been unfashionable/trend oblivious women who did their own thing and kept their hair long.  Both my late maternal grandmother and MIL were such ladies who have had long hair at times when nearly all other women had short hair.  Of course they didn't have long flowing hair, even they would've seen that as disorderly but there's nothing historically incorrect in having long hair and not being willing to torture the hell out of it.  However, these same vintage enthusiasts have no problem with rockabilly girls with tattoos, piercings and unnaturally dyed hair that would've been very unusual and frowned upon in their beloved decades. 

I have no problem with what others do, how they dress or keep their hair.  It's the hypocricy that gets to me.

Actually, the haircut I got at the end of Spring to even out things and be left with healthy hair is working against me because everyone, even those who were supportive of my long hair mission, like this cut too much.  Go figure!

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Oh of course it's most likely jealousy, "why doesn't my hair look like that?" "I wish I had the patience to grow my hair long" blah blah blah. Yep or the whole "clone" syndrome, if we all look the same there's less competition  *pfbttt* why would I deliberately want to be like anyone else? I have a hell of a time being me.

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Also another good possibility, and again fits into the "clone" mindset. That and some can't grasp why anyone wouldn't want to be exactly like them because for some strange reason they think it's all about them (hah the missed the memo it's all about ME! lmao  )

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rotfl, I like this one the best   

Drear wrote on Aug 5^th, 2008 at 5:54am:


*pfbtt*    I'm certainly not much of a feminist, I do believe that no one's subservient to anyone heck women should be above men, we are the one's who make it possible to have a future generation, leave that up to men and where would the world be? I personally haven't met a man who isn't attracted to long hair, but then again I'm trying to get a man so it all works out in the end.  But why some people always insist on turning something that is, in the end, totally a matter of choice, and I doubt there are many women who are doing it for any other reason then because they want to, into some expression of backward thinking is beyond me. Personally I've had short hair, on some people it can be very attractive, I just find long hair easier to style. *shrugs "can't we all just get along?" *

Longer hair is deffinitly easier to take care of. My hair is really short right now, and I cant wait till it gets at least shoulder  length so i dont have to do much with it in the morning. I remember just wetting my hair and pulling it back before i cut my relaxed ends off. My hair just two inches right now, so i got 11 inches before im shoulder length.