Hi, bunchofroses and welcome to LongLocks.

There's a lot of factors that come to my mind that could contribute to the change in your hair: the stress of moving to a different country and culture could be contributing to your hair loss.  The water here is different.  The climate may be quite different.

In order to get rid of the damaged ends, they must be cut off.  The damage will increase the longer the splits are there, because the splits travel up the hair shaft.

To maintain healthy hair from the inside: stay hydrated and eat a healthy diet.  Drink plenty of water, limit caffeine and eat fruits, veg, nuts, eggs and fish.
Regular scalp massages may help with the falling hair.  I really like Neem oil to keep the scalp healthy.  Use products that are sulfate free and gentle.  Deep condition regularly to prevent splitting.  I have thick, naturally wavy hair and I like DevaCurl No Poo & One Condition and Max Green Alchemy Scalp Therapy Shampoo & Conditioner for my regular routine and Ouidad Deep Treatment and Karen's Body Beautiful Luscious Locks Moisturizing Hair Mask.

I recognize you are in an uncomfortable position, to choose to go against your religion.  If you get the ends trimmed, you can focus on good hair care and then perhaps never get your hair cut again.

I'm curious-do you keep your hair covered or braided?

I wish you Good Luck whatever you choose to do.

Namaste

Hi Sakina and CurlGirl,

Thank you for your valuable comments.. I have already started to work on my hair... I know I will need to get my hair trimmed coz that will help me get rid of my damaged hair.. I am planning to do so in sometime.. I have also started to use some recommended products on this site.. I have switched to Nature Gate's Shampoo and conditioner and Infusium 23 Repairologie... I hope they show some results with time.. I am also massaging my scalp with Jojoba oil and have bought a showerhead with chlorine filter...

Hopefully, all this will help me regain my strong and healthy hair.. I feel so depressed seeing them so thin and short..

I have another question... I heard someone mentioning to me once that she trimmed her hair and she never grew back that length... Is it true?? I want long hair and that is the only reason why I have decided to trim my hair so that I can get back some length and bounce to it...

@Sakina: I do not braid or keep my hair covered.. I have them open like everyone else and also tie them in whatsoever way... Just that my religion forbids me from cutting them off..

Please keep writing to me so that I feel motivated about my hair..

Thank you!!

Very likely, depending upon when your friend cut her hair, she could have been in a "stall" growth period. Some seasons can cause slower growth, or not eating healthy enough can also cause stalls in growth.

I am glad to hear that you are looking into taking care of your hair! I would like to caution you, though, that a certain amount of trimming will always be necessary for healthy hair. Even the most well-cared-for hair will eventually fray or get damaged at the tips. However, I think that there is a world of difference between trimming to keep hair healthy, and trimming to remove or maintain a certain length. If you do not like the idea of routine full-trims, you could look into S&D. More can be found on S&D in the hair care area of this forum.

Here's hoping for your happy healthy hair!