Hi, colombyanita, and welcome to the boards.  Please introduce yourself in the New Members section and tell us more about your hair!

If you want the coconut oil to moisturize your hair, you could apply it after you shampoo.  Also, you could apply it before going to bed and let it soak in overnight, then wash in the morning-this should cut down on how many times you have to wash to get the oil out.  You might need less oil that you've been using.  Then, I'd still put a little on the ends because you don't want to leave your hair unprotected.

I recommend that you resume conditioning after you shampoo, but try a lighter or heavier conditioner based on how the one you were using wasn't working for you.

Good Luck!!!

I'm interested in beginning to oil my hair, since my hair is now long enough that my natural oil no longer reaches the ends (Yay! for length; Boo! for poofy ends).  This may seem like a silly question, but nobody's mentioned it: If you oil overnight and wash in the morning, don't you have to wrap your hair in something so that the oil doesn't end up all over your pillow?  Also, how much oil do you normally use?  And if you put oil on your hair after you wash, doesn't it look...well...oily?

Thanks!

Thanks for clearing that up!