Alrighty, so I have been a member for a while now, and I have been trying new things all the time to improve my hair, and while my hair's health has gotten so much better over the last 2 years, the shine and texture haven't improved, and it's getting me down!

I want my hair to be shiny and silky smooth like every other woman's hair I see!  I STILL can't wear my hair in a pony tail (and hardly ever down) because the texture is whispy, and almost coarse, and it knots up on itself at EVERY given opportunity.    I have no idea what else to try to get it shiny and silky smooth with hardly any knotting, it's really got me thinking of even *gasp* cutting it off! I mean it IS healthy, it's very soft, but it's sort of poofy and whispy and, man, it's so hard to describe.  It is the opposite of shiny and silky, but not ragged, does that make sense?

I stopped using all regular cosmetic things in my hair quite some time ago.  I rarely use a regular shampoo or conditioner anymore, and when I do wash my hair it's with a shampoo bar or mild shampoo & Cond. with no cones, and I oil it as often as needed (few times a week maybe).  I comb and brush regularly (and gently) and I have tried some hair treatments to make my hair soft and what not here and there, but nothing makes it shiny and silky and knot free!  AGHCJKAFH  it's so aggravating!  I hate when I see all these women doing god awful things to their hair on a daily basis and yet they still have shiny, silky, no-knot, gorgeous hair.  It makes me INSANE!

Has anyone ever found a way to go from dull, lack-luster, wispy hair, to shiny & silky smooth no-knot hair?  Is it possible?  I don't want to give up, I have had long hair my entire life, but if I can only ever wear it in buns, what's the point?  It's getting me down for sure!  HELP!

Vinegar rinses help with shine.

Honey is a humectant - it will moisturize the hair.  You warm it so that it is liquid enough to work through your hair.

I find that rinsing my hair in cold water after I condition helps my hair keep from frizzing and tangling, as well as making it shinier.  I think it's because it makes the cuticle lie flat so it reflects more light. 
I have never really had much of a shine problem, though sometimes if my hair gets dried out quickly (in very hot, dry weather) it becomes courser and looses it's shine.  But all I need to do is a deep conditioning and it's fine.

For a shiner hair,you do regular massage with oil before a wash your hair and you also apply a curd in your hair and wash your hair with a warm water this a best way and your hair be a smooth and shiny.