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Hello there, Daughter Of Fire.
Seems to me that the look you're going for is more "romantic" than anything else. Technically, if you're not wearing a veil, it's not going to be the least bit Victorian since women of that era always attempted to copy the queen.

If you're bent on wearing your hair down, you might want to try a half-up. You could try "topsy tailing" the part that is pulled up a few times and add little flowers or pearls for garnish. Curl the length and whatever parts are hanging down.

If you don't already have curly/wavy hair, you could curl it (safely - there are many methods that do not involve heat), then gather it up with one hand and just replace your fingers with bobby pins to hold your hair this way. I've seen Hollywood stylists do this and it looks pretty amazing.

You could also look through magazines for examples to show to your stylist to give them a general idea of what you're after. Professionals can do gorgeous styles with flowers! If you're styling your own hair, practice a lot!

Congrats and best of luck to you.