just a quick update: my wedding has been canceled (sniffle) but thanks for the suggestions anyway. In case anyone is curious here's what I had planned to do with my hair: for the ceremony I was going to zig-zag part my hair on the side and set it back from my face with combs, so it still looked fluffy (not straight back and tight), leaving the rest down to show it off (my hair is finally classic length and looks fabulous since I trimmed it and started using a great aubrey organics leave in conditioner). Then for the reception and dancing I was going to put the length of my hair up in a mostly french twist, leaving the ends sticking out on top to curl and pin prettily.

I'm sorry, pvteeny.  Your hair ideas sound great.

Good Luck!

(((((hugs))) sorry to hear about your cancelation!