I don't have an exact solution, per se, but I think as the damage grows out they will calm down.  Also, watch for splits on the damaged strands and snip the end off if you see a split. If they split they won't calm down.  Also, discontinuing the blow fryer and effective conditioning will calm them down.  I guess these are longer term solutions. 

On this board there are divergent preferences for how to condition.  Some like all natural (me included) and some say cheapie conditioners work the best.  I'm sure others will have better advice on this.  What many seem to find effective is to not overuse shampoo, and some use no shampoo at all.  But if something seems to be working for you, stick with it.  If you are not satisfied you can always try something else.

I have almost a layer from former damage, only mine is from pre-LongLocks Salon metal barette clasp abuse.  As they grow out they look better (I've trimmed probably all of them individually by now), and when I roll my hair they actually add volume and now I like them.

Good luck - there's always the perfect solution somewhere!