Hello everyone, I don't have very long hair but I'm working on it. I have very badly split ends and i think I just need to cut it all off and start fresh, but I really don't want to. I have tried to twist and cut the ends that stuck out but I have some health hairs that stick out too because my hair is layer and I have a lot of broken hair so its all different lengths I hate it, but I desperatly want it long and healthy. I have done a lot of research of takeing care of hair and I'm doing pretty good with it now, but I just don't know what to do. I know my hubby doesn't want me to cut it even though he says he don't care. If you guys have a way of me not having to cut my hair please help, I would like to keep it but if not then I will cut it.                      legomypago

WELCOME! I trim off any split ends that I have one at a time hair by hair. Its a big job but I don't want to cut the good ones off with the split ones so sometimes when Iam just waiting in the car or something like that I just take fingernail clippers and snip off any splits I find. Also when I have something on TV that I don't have to pay close attention to I will snip off split ends. I don't know of any other way than by doing it one at a time that you can avoid getting the good ends along with the bad.

You say you don't have very long hair...how long is your hair? If your husband doesn't want you to cut it off, it must be pretty long in his eyes.

The worst thing you can do is cut off all your hair, good and bad. That will make it take much, much longer to grow. Guys who are trying to grow long hair do this all the time, sometimes setting themselves back a year or more because of a bad trim.

The only time you would have to do a drastic cut like that would be if your hair was so badly damaged that formation of tangles results in even more damage. 

Combining this with regular conditioning and oiling will give you healthy hair as soon as possible.

If your hair is shoulder-length or longer, I suggest starting regular monthly 1/2" trims. While you do this, your length will not be increasing, but the health of your hair will improve noticeably within the first few months. Feel free to skip a trim any time you don't feel like it.

How do I oil my hair? I have heard a lot about it, but haven't tried it. I do usually  massage my scalp and then try to rub what oils i got off my scalp onto my ends. Oh and what are good oils to use and where can i get them?

Welcome legomypago!!  I second what ekatherine said
in her first post.  when I first found this site abut 6 months ago, I was going to chop my hair because it
was dried out and frizzy from highlighting every 2 mos
along with blowdrying and curling irons.  I read over
the "Ultimate Guide to growing long hair, and I trim off
about 1/2" .every 1-2 months.  Because of this my hair
has only grown about 2 inches in 6 months but it
is MUCH healthier.   Now i can go 3 months without a
trim and this time maybe even a little longer. (No longer
than 4 mos for me, though).  I'm SO glad I didn't cut my hair off!

tapered ends indeed don't seem to split, but they do seem to have often damage right above the end. maybe it's just my idea.