I'll start in with my routine:
I wash my hair about twice a week, except when I am biking to work (then I wash it each day that I bike).

I am currently using the Long Hair version of Formula Latina by  Joss Claude Products (here are my comments.  I try to avoid -cones in my products.

I use a vinegar rinse about every 4 or 5 shampoos to clarify.

When washing my hair, I use a detangling comb through my hair when rinsing my conditioner out.  Then I apply just a bit more conditioner as a leave in to make combing out a bit easier.

I do not comb my hair when wet.  I use a wooden comb.  I have a plastic detangling comb that I have smoothed all the edges on.

I do not brush my hair - my hair tangles when brushed.

I wear my hair in a bun or braids 90% of the time.

I sleep with my hair braided and in my favorite "hair sock" to protect it.  I have a satin pillow case.

I dust or trim the splits when ever I have time.  I have not had my hair length trimmed in over a year.