It is always hard to hear such statements from someone you would expect unconditional love.  Have you tried telling her how much it hurts when she says those things?  In any case, you know you can choose how to wear your hair.  It obviously gives you satisfaction and you see others appreciating it as well.

why people think that as you grow older your hair must get shorter is beyond me! im only 19 but i plan to keep my long hair . even though my aunt said that women over a certain age look terrible with long hair and should cut it short when the grey hairs start coming through....ive no idea what planet she comes from...!   

"You are 19 and your mother thinks you are too old to have long hair? That's amazing. It's the ideal age to start taking care of your hair and developing your personal style.  "

no, no...my mother loves my long hair (Anjy's mum doesnt think the long hair is a good idea)
my aunt likes my hair....she just doesnt think my dream to be a long haired old lady is very nice!

"By the time you're my age, you'll have hair that's well past the floor if you keep this up. "

i hope so!!! well...maybe i'll keep it trimmed to ankle length so i dont trip over it and young children and small animals dont get caught in it!!  <<<imagine combing that out of your hair at the end of the day!!    

My mother used to say stuff like this to me sometimes. It really hurts. Of course, it was the opposite because in my family's religion women aren't supposed to cut their hair, and I wanted to when I was a teenager, but it hurts the same anyway. Just realize that your mother probably as some issues to work out about it and it isn't brought on by anything you did. It also doesn't mean she doesn't love you.

Kate your granny sounds wonderful.... that's what I want... to have my grandchildren remember me for my unique qualities

Some of the most beautiful hair I've ever seen was on a 50-something lady - BEAUTIFUL silvery gray, always done in a braid.  Then there's my mother, who keeps hers Bra-length.  She's 54, and it makes her look younger and perkier, but by no means immature or silly.  She works as an ER doctor, so it makes it easy for her to keep it out of her way at work, and she can co-ordinate her scrub tops to her scrunchies 

For my part, I think it's a good deal prettier to keep a well-kempt length than these curly head-helmet cuts that ladies seem compelled to get when they hit a certain age.  You know, the ones shorn about the neck and permed to poof on the top.  It just seems to emphasize the inevitable sagging of the jowl and does nothing to soften lines.

My great-grandmother lived to 108.  She had GORGEOUS long hair, right up to the end.  Milky white, and she'd do it up in one of those gibson girl buns.  I hope mine looks half so pretty when I get there   I guess I'm just lucky in my relatives... they like cooing over my mane at family gatherings more than bugging me to 'upgrade' it.  Wish I could say the same for some other folks...

Definite agreement here about long gray or white hair in buns or braided, or whatever! My great-grandmothers were the only relatives I remember with long hair.