Well, on tuesday next week I'll be leaving for two weeks. I'm flying from my home here on the gulf cost all the way to Saskatoon in Canada to see my guy. This in itself is reason for excitement for me, but it's more than that. I'll be meeting him for the first time.

A few years back I got involved in an anime community and started talking to this guy, at first about the community and then other things. As things went we got into the habit of talking everyday for a couple hours. We were good friends of course and things went up from there. For three years now we've been "together" I guess you could say. We write letters, call each other, chat on webcam, send pictures, send gifts back and forth. I've talked to his friends and family and he's talked to mine in return. After college he plans on moving here so we can be together.

I know a lot of people are really against online relationships, and so I've had a lot of critisism from people who aren't very close to me, old friends, distant relatives and such. I realise that bad things happen sometimes, but I'm not exactly rushing into this. Three years of talking everyday(with the exception of losing power due to hurricanes) can give you a decent idea of a person. This trip is to get to know each other better in person, spend some real time together and see how things work from there.

I'm so nervous, the whole "I hope his family likes me" thing. I want to make a good first impression, get to know all of them better.  I've known two friends of mine who have gone on similar trips which turned out quite well, but as much as I'm expecting this to go well I will be very careful while I'm up there. I'll be watchful and alert to what's around me, having my phone with me at all times, checking in with my family regularly, and so forth. While there I'll be taking a lot of pictures, using this not only as a way to get to know him better, but as a chance to enjoy my oppertunity to travel some and see other cities and towns. In that way it's very exciting for me. I guess you could say this is like a "leap of faith in the name of love".

I'm not really sure what the point of all this talking is, besides saying that I won't be around for a little while, I guess I'm just nervous and excited and needed to voice that somewhere. I'm really hoping for the best from all this. Thanks to those who actually read my babbling. :)

Good luck with your meeting. I actually met my BF online...Three years ago I moved out to CA from WI to be with him. We are now living in WI with my parents.

I understand how difficult it is to tell people about it, for a long time he and I just said we met while I was on vacation in CA. We only told his Mother last year how we actually met. lol

Once again, good luck...I hope you have a great time and everything works out the way you want it to!  ;D

Good luck with your first meeting.  I have several online friends that have developed into RL friends.  One of them has developed a relationship that will probably end in marriage.  I think if you take it slow it can be good.  Make sure you really know each other before you make any long term, permanent committments.

I hope everything goes very well for the two of you.

Oh, good luck to you and him as well.

Let me tell you a little story. We've all heard the horror stories of online meetings. My story is of a lovely lass who lost her husband during a training exercise while he was a member of the air force.

She was a most beautiful lass and had a lovely daughter as well. She was very curious about anything and everything. She threw her heart and soul into all her projects. One night, I was at her place, she and I were/are the best of friends, and we started chatting in an IRC (internet relay chat) room. Well, this one fella was really kinda keen on my friend. So between her an I we started talking to this guy.

The short story is...they are now happily married in Bill Gates's backyard (he works for Microsoft) and have another lovely addition to their family.

What's the point? Well, it can be good and it can be bad and it can be something that lasts a lifetime. Sounds to me like you two have been friends for a long time (even just in cyberspace) and this is the next step to see if you have a friend for life or a seedling of something more to grow on. Good luck.  :)

It's a different time.  I know several folks who developed friendship and even romance (that worked) online.

I hope you have a wonderful time and it goes the way you want ...g

Good luck! I hope things go well for you and your guy!

Just to add to the stories of online relationships, my mom's cousin met her husband online. They got married a few years ago and have two kids!

How exciting!  I'm sure you'll make a fine "first impression".  I've met most of my friends online - it's a great way to meet people all over the world that you wouldn't have gotten a chance to otherwise.  The closest-knit of friends I have were also from an anime community.   :)  Such a cool bunch, those anime people!

Cynde

It's a new era for people's relationships, whether we like or want it, or not.
I've made a couple of very good friends around the world through the internet. I also had a karmic meeting with someone half around the globe, through the net, that didn't work out.
My best friend got married and just had a baby girl with a guy she met online.
Anything can happen, like it does irl.
Excercise common sense, ALWAYS let someone know where you are and take one step at a time.
I'm sure all will work out for the best  :D

I met my sweetie online about a year ago and we have lived together for about 6 months without any event. He's absolutely awsome and I feel like I  had a BIGGER group  of people to chose from rather than just the accidentals at work, on the bus  or whatever.

I was also able to be right up front about my disabilities and such -- I'm a bipolar artist nutball with fibromyalgia and polycystic kidney disease......... that way i didnt get hurrt by someone  not knowing what they were gettingg into.

Also, online what is there to do BUT talk? You can get to know a person's thibking more in 6 months of chat than I did in 12 years of    marage to my x. lol Why? because you MUST talk! (or type) Or its  not going to even get off the ground.

Excellent point, Rosa!  Communication is the key to a good, long term, relationship.

Exactly, and in all that time to talk a lot of things come up, your/their talents/flaws, family, hobbies, opinions, hopes, you can learn alot about someone from the day-to-day conversation as well as the goofing off and relaxing(we'd sometimes play board games and videogames online with each other  while talking).

WOW, Tuesday is fast approaching! That's wonderful that you're finally going to meet him. As for LD relationships, Bear and I have had to phone date for the past couple years... but that makes it all the more special whenever we met up!

Good Luck!  Have a safe trip I hope all goes well.   ;D

Good luck!

I met my spouse via internet. So, in spite of all the horror-stories...sometimes these things work!  ;D

What's an "anime community"?  Curious.

wrote on Aug 6^th, 2005 at 5:36pm:

What's an "anime community"?  Curious.

It's a group for talking about anime, the Japanese animated shows. It has a pretty big following in some areas.

Awww such romance!  Have a safe flight, BL!  We look forward to hearing about your trip!

Almost there now! All will be well  :-*

Well all, this is it. In a few hours I'll be leaving for the airport. Wish me luck and I'll miss ya'll while I'm gone!

Awww, good luck!!! Just reading this, I remember how I felt before I met 'him' for the first time. I was soooo nervous and scared that we wouldnt like each other! Soon after I got there though, it felt like we had always known each other in the psysical sense. When I saw him I cried and he poked me in the eye. lol Love at first sight...or poke. lol

OMG!!!!

We'll be eagerly awaiting your return report.  Ummm, pics would be good  ;D...g

Yes, yes. Pictures would be wonderful. Have fun and tell us all about it when you return.  :D
Meg

I hope things are going well for Bardic Love...!
[glb]*fingers crossed*[/glb]

Thinking of you and keeping my fingers and toes crossed  ;D for the both of you!
Come back here and tell us all about it, if you feel like it!